“What are you looking for?”
I’ve heard this question so much it’s now engrained into my skull and for years I’ve been answering it all wrong.
Yes, you may be waiting for Mr Right to appear and whisk you off your feet, but now is not the time to say that! If you want to send, said individual running for the hills, of course, be as honest as you like and lay it out on a table cloth. Just don’t expect to hear from him again.
Why not, instead point out that this is all bloody ‘casual’ until someone decides they want it otherwise? It’s not like you can make a relationship out of nothing? But maybe that’s where we are going wrong. We wear our hearts on our sleeves, and speak truth from our mouths and just like that we douse the flames of possibility before they’ve even begun to burn.